Giving expresses the spirit of the holiday season. I started my shopping early and have even wrapped some gifts. This Christmas, four years after four loved ones died, I'm going to focus on a different kind of giving -- sharing my time and traning. I've already rung bells for the Salvation Army Red Kettle program. In addition, I'm going to continue mentoring a new writer, give free talks about grief recovery, and give my books away.As time passes, I've found that giving helps me most. When you're consumed by grief, you may not be able to imagine yourself giving. But the time will come when you feel the need to give. Life isn't over yet and you and I have much to give. Let's do it!